My Uncle Had A DISGUSTING Suggestion! | #reddit #redditstories

@jordynketcham9859

2023-11-28 06:56:43

I don't want to defend the mom in story 2, but i do want to speak from experience. Listening to the story my brain went "is this my house?" Because i went through very similar things when i was young. It took him pulling me down the stairs by my hair and holding a knife to my neck to snap my mom out of the cycle and making that call. The story is from the moms perspective and she's likely being abused and isn't bringing it up in her post because she's in denial. I always assumed my mom wasn't being hurt too because the only time I saw it directed towards her was the night we left. The kids absolutely need help, and i hope they do. Every time someone asked me about it, i would deny it or downplay it (9yr-14yr) because i was afraid of what he would do, but knowing that's where my brain was, I'm sure she was in a similar place. It's easy to shout "she needs to fix it!" When she is probably scared and gaslight to hell and logic doesn't logic when you are worried about your safety in that way. Financial dependency is also something that might be keeping her in that situation.

@seshthecat

2023-11-23 08:10:10

I could make you guys a leather flogger with your YouTube name weaved into the handle.

@seshthecat

2023-11-23 07:26:13

Male depression presents often as anger and violence.

@Thatgenderconfused3mo

2023-11-13 03:19:57

The emotional support pets Josh has during that second story🥺you can just tell he’s so upset by the whole thing. Also I’ve literally watched this happen with my sister as well (not physical abuse really more mental and emotional but now that I think about it physical to a degree with only her and her ex bf)and it genuinely devastates me when I look back on the passed like 3 years and just listening to my niece and nephew beg her to stop going back bc he’s mean to all of them and how my niece is so protective of her. My niece used to have full blown panic attacks if she couldn’t see my nephew or sister when she was younger. I sat with ny sister or slept next to her in her bed as she sobbed asking me why he didn’t love her and why was he so mean and having to constantly be there for her and telling her to leave. It took so long for her to take the kids out the environment but she literally still goes and see him. I’ve been in her shoes and I understand but it’s just so sad and disappointing to watch from a far someone just like trying to justify behavior that’s unacceptable bc that’s all they know when it comes to their relationships. My sister has an amazing dad but my dad was honestly abusive toward her and I think that might’ve done a lot of shit to her. Idk. But I really feel for Josh in how he had to hold his cat and pet her just to stare off for a minute bc of the emotions he felt. I hope that mom and her kids are out of that and safe from him. Like they all said I’ve seen too many true crimes with this exact situation and it’s always horrible

@robinchesterfield42

2023-11-12 20:02:00

The adorable fluffy kitty was MUCH NEEDED therapy during the second story. Thank you.

But also frick that dad.

@GeorgiannaMiller5

2023-11-08 22:42:14

I think the woman who wants all the money to go on the date is making the point that most women already do all of these things and pay for all of these things and men see the effects and have expectations based on those things but they have no sense of the cost

@nikiahota

2023-11-02 23:00:33

History is written by the winners

@XenaWarriorWildflower

2023-11-01 17:32:40

2nd story.

The trigger warning didn't phase me until we got deeper into the story. I had to take a step back to take a breath.
The "I'd rather be feared than loved" was my own father's mentality (he's a boomer)
My 2 older siblings and I were very much verbally and physically abused. We were subjected to it aggressively until I was 8 and my dad remarried. He was a single dad for 6 years and I can't tell you how many times he'll justify his actions because of that fact. I've finally found a good therapist and I've been seeing her for over a year now.
I can also easily understand the mother's complacency by enabling the behavior. My stepmother was very much like this woman is. However, she never once asked us how we felt about him. This mother at least was more willing to hear the children's feelings. My stepmother was and is my mother. (My bio mom was like my dad but on a different part of the scale.)
We were a blended family and my mom (stepmother) was stretched thin between 5 kids. One of them had severe autism. She did the best she could. It wasn't until me and my 2 older siblings moved out (as soon as we were 18 and graduated from highschool) that she began to finally realize the full scale of the abuse. Things quickly escalated and long story short they are divorced and my stepmom is like a whole new person! It's been a beautiful thing to watch her transformation. As for my dad, I've cut off all contact.
My advice to this woman is if he refuses to go to therapy or acknowledge the things that he is doing are wrong, and the children have brought up the fact that they are scared of him. It is in the best interest of not only her kids but herself as well to leave so that it doesn't cause any further trauma. The two older kids are going to have to go to counseling eventually. Get out before the baby starts to develop memories. Help save at least one child from this horrible situation. Regardless of what happens, this mother plays a very heavy role in all of this.
By denying the abuse she is just as liable for it. The continued denial is going to cost her any future relationships she hopes to have with her children. She owes a debt and it will eventually need to be paid whether it is now or later.

@keojiabrown6807

2023-11-01 01:57:44

Naw that mom and dad need to go to jail asap

@LuisanaMcbo

2023-11-01 01:47:47

So much white hate from a white man, he seems so nice but it gives me the ick

@Fleurbritt

2023-11-01 00:26:16

I love you guys but the one dude who fake laughs all the time. I'm so sorry but it's a bit annoying.

@echohanna

2023-10-31 21:03:53

When someone hits something when angry with someone, its a surrogate for hitting the person. I can tell you from experience, kids pick up on it

@Saffron333

2023-10-29 16:21:35

The second one sounds exactly like my childhood. The kids are going to need sooo much therapy. I have paid so much money in therapy to try to fix my brain now that I'm in my 30's. Watching one parent abuse the other parent is still traumatic.

@oxyroid

2023-10-26 21:50:32

story 2 is my dad word for word bar for bar. i got taken away from my mom and dad at 4 tho. but everytime i would visit him he would make it a point to instill fear in me. now ive let him back in my life recently. he’s started dating a new woman. this new woman lets him hit my little brother(6) and do the same shit to him. my little brother is super violent and mean now. he doesn’t have friends because he’s always hitting people, and lying. i want to help him unlearn this but i don’t know how. :/

@jannahnicholson9844

2023-10-25 04:14:20

A note on the pervy uncle.

When women and children in bad situations hear loved ones saying things like "if anyone ever XYZ I'd beat/kill/whatever them" it can actually make them less likely to report it. The fear of said loved one getting in trouble because of their reaction sometimes keeps victims quiet.

@LeviOArts

2023-10-25 02:01:38

The dog snapchat filter is a red flag for bottom 🚩

@esbenm6544

2023-10-23 04:19:13

The last story should probably get an extra therapist. And maybe a therapist for the therapists.

@berguerietrailers

2023-10-14 03:40:39

Unfortunately I can relate with the kids of the second story. My father has strong anger issues and is super selfish. I never was the type of kid to express myself about that, but it was pretty obvious that this phrase was on my mind. So many times I didn't want to make my homework with my dad because I was so afraid of him, genuinely scared to death. I didn't know how was to love a father, all I felt was fear. My mom tried to help me and always has been loving and kind, but nothing can take away that feeling and memories and TRAUMA I need to face 'til today.

@Resabuka

2023-10-12 07:46:40

The second story really bothers me. These stories never end well.

The mother thinks this abuse is so normal that she enables this man and it's affecting her children. She excuses the fathers actions. She's trying to convince herself " everything is okay". GET THAT BABY OUT OF THERE!